Last month, I went to the BEST wedding ever! On 18 October 2014, I attended the most beautiful wedding in Memphis, Tennessee. My friend Osahon Asemota, got married to an amazing woman Temitope Asemota. The wedding was engulfed by laughter, kindness, happiness, friendship and true love; it was absolutely magical!
Before you look at the pictures, let me just run through what I loved about the wedding.
Tying the knot
Most of the weddings I’ve attended in Nigeria have lasted an hour thirty minutes to almost four hours. (It all depends on the church). What makes these services long are all the hymns sung, the thanks giving where the people walk/dance to the altar of the church to congratulate the couple (like they won’t see them at the reception) and also the minister’s sermon. A lot of times (Lord forgive me) the sermons are so so long. There are times where I honestly find the sermons annoying (is it on the wedding day and in front of the well wishers the minister starts counselling the couple?).
At the Asemota’s wedding, it was a short and sweet service. Bride walked gracefully into the church in a breathtaking gown and in 25 minutes, yes 25 minutes, the nuptials were done! Signed, Sealed, Delivered” by Stevie Wonder – this was the song the couple danced through the church and out into the world to once they were declared husband and wife.
The ambience of the reception was alluring. The set up of the venue was spacious yet cozy and classy. People had traveled from all over the States, United Kingdom and Nigeria just for this. There were over a hundred people at the wedding. Some people knew each other while some others didn’t. There was an overwhelming kindness in the room: when the caterer needed help setting up, some guest helped her with this, when the servers could not get round the tables fast enough to place water on the tables, some guests helped with this. There was genuine benevolence in the room. People actually socialized and it was funny how even though some of us were meeting each other for the first time, we were able to communicate as though were long time friends.
Jollof rice et toutes sortes
I usually eat before I go to Nigerian weddings. At the usual Naija wedding you find you have to beg/go on a quest for food and drinks (at a wedding you have been invited to, plus maybe even bought aso ebi). I know some people who carry their own food and drinks to weddings in Lagos just because they don’t want to be insulted. (The only thing I will allow myself be embarrassed for is small chops).
At the Memphis wedding there was so much to eat and drink. (I just had a flashback to the delicious maple syrup and vodka cocktail I had at the wedding). There were Nigerians at the wedding so surely in the convocation of the oyinbo mende mende, jollof rice and several other Nigeria dishes were part of le menu. Food service at Temi and Osahon’s wedding was buffet style. Towards the end of the merriment, the groom announced there was more food and take out boxes available. I thought this was a lovely offer from the couple, seeing as almost all of the guests had flown into Memphis specially for this occasion.
The boogie down
Let me set the scene of a typical Lagos wedding, guys in dark shades standing in the corner usually right in front of the air-conditioning, pretty looking women sitting all together dancing in their chairs. Sometimes it isn’t their fault it maybe that there isn’t a decent dance floor, sometimes there’s a dance floor but they’re all posing.
(Thank God this was a Memphis wedding). It seemed as though everyone, I mean the whole room had been waiting for the chance to dance. As soon as it was announced it was time to boogie down, most of us were on the dance floor in the middle of the room. It was swell ’cause everyone was dancing with everyone: friends, family and strangers. Picture over 50 people doing the cupid shuffle, the wobble dance and the Bobby Shmurda dance! I danced until it was time to go home! The music was so good, my feet were probably thinking, let’s not waste a beat. Shout out to Atlanta DJ: DJ Majesty.
It was such an emosh (emotional) day. Let me take you back to the couple’s first dance. The way these two moved to John Legend’s “You and I”, they clearly forgot there was anybody else in the room. It seemed as though it was both of them in the room and we were looking into their private moment (or maybe it was the song that made us feel this way). All they did was dance and tissues started coming out. Then the chief bride’s maid who happened to be the sister of the bride decide we all needed a second round of tears and gave such an emotional speech she couldn’t finish it!
The wedding was magical! Congratulations Mr and Mrs Asemota. Wishing you many more days as happy as this one, many more occasions for celebration, and a lifetime of love and laughter!
See more pictures in the gallery below.
Photo credit: Anuel Modebe
Written by Princess Irede Abumere (@PrincessIre)